Discipleship

Foundation of Christian Marriage

Bible Lesson: Genesis 2:18-25
Theme Verse: Vs. 18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper as his partner.
Archana belonged to a reputed and a God fearing family. She fell in love with her classmate Ajay while pursuing graduation and was mesmerized by the false promises made by Ajay to her. Ultimately, after much pressure, she was able to convince her parents for marriage. Initially, newly wedded couple cherished their time but after a year Ajay started to show his colors. He had no interest in going to the church nor was he serious in doing work. He forced Archana to get money from her parents, started to drink and abused her often. One fine day when it became unbearable for Archana, she decided to quit her marriage and planned to return to her parent’s home. Meanwhile, a senior Pastor of that town visited her and she narrated her plight to him. Church members began to support her through prayers. Within two months, Ajay’s life was transformed and their married life was restored.
In today’s world the wedlock is becoming deadlock. Many young people get desperate to enter into the divine relationship for pleasure, sexual relationship, material gain etc without praying and planning. Unfortunately, the latest statistics on divorce, premarital relationships, domestic violence, extramarital affairs and sexual abuse are increasing at high pace. The concept of marriage is now under question. Most of the young people prefer live-in-relationships, same-sex marriages, premarital relationships, etc. It is awful to see that the purpose and sacredness of marriage is losing its ground. Does our culture is becoming like that of Sodom and Gomorrah?  Why should we talk about marriage? Is marriage an important decision of life? Why many marriages undergo crises? Genesis 2 gives hope, purpose and encouragement to those families who are struggling to keep their married life and at the same time it assures youth about the significance of relationship.
In spite of umpteen numbers of plants and animals species, Adam couldn’t find a suitable helper for himself. In vs. 18, when God saw Adam was alone, He created Eve as a perfect companion. Companionship is an important aspect in married life where couples are called to share, care, appreciate, love, trust and accept each other. It helps to deepen the relationship and creates one new family out of two. Surprisingly, there are couples who feel lonely under the same roof because they have not understood the biblical principles of married life. In most cases husbands expect that their wives should ‘submit’ to them according to Ephesians 5: 22. But they fail to understand their own role. In Eph. 5:23-25, Paul compares husband to as Christ: As Christ is the head of the church likewise husband is the head of his wife; As Christ loved the Church and sacrificed His life for her likewise God demands sacrificial love from husbands. Sacrifice of Christ for the Church started from the day He came down to earth and continued till His death on the cross. Husbands and wives are expected to have a Christ-like nature which should be reflected daily through their behaviour. To enjoy perfect companionship one has to submit and other has to sacrifice.
Commitment is also an important aspect in married life. God created a woman (Eve) for Adam. He could have created two or more women but He never did that which refutes the idea of polygamy and post marital relationship. Secondly, God created Eve (woman) not Steve (another man) as a suitable helper and this refutes the practice of same-sex marriages. God hates adultery. Hebrew 13:4 speaks, Marriage should be honoured by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Marriage is a high and holy calling to be committed to each other till death do apart. After marriage husband’s body belongs to wife while wife’s body belongs to husbands and that makes them one flesh. Wives should not be treated as an object of exploitation by husbands as they are also created in the image and likeness of God and recipient of equal blessings from God. Trusting each other in marriage keeps the commitment going. Prov. 31:11-12 says, The heart of her husband safely trusts her . . . . She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.
The Centre of Christian marriage should be Lord Jesus Christ. Without Him we can’t do anything. It is God who has laid the foundation of marriage and perfect relationship. In Mark 10:9 Jesus said, “Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” When God is the initiator and foundation of marriage then who has the power to destroy it. The strict commandment is given to humans of not becoming the agents to bring division in the married life of any couple. The demonic forces try their best to bring discord in the family life but it has no right over those families who are protected under the precious blood of Jesus. Couples need to be equipped in the Word of God and prayer because spiritual maturity produces stable marriages.
Divine Love
It was the Garden of Eden,
Where the first wedding was performed.
The Triune God was the celebrant,
By whom all things were formed.
The purpose of marriage indeed was deep,
Our dear Adam was made to sleep.
God took the rib out of him,
And brought the lady Eve in.
Marriage is God’s divine plan for human,
His blessings are on both man and woman.
Its foundation is on God’s eternal love,
That binds the family from above.
By saying ‘I do’ before Thine altar,
They are one flesh and will never falter.
Let Jesus’ divine providence be on them,
And unfailing grace will always hem.
Lo! With His blessings they’ll live their life,
Two in one flesh without any strife.
What God hath joined let no one put asunder,
Marriage indeed is God’s greatest wonder.
Samuel Richmond